help with coming out

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    [fancypost bgcolor=; border: none; width: 450px; padding: 0px; font-size: 10px; line-height: 14px; text-align: justify]on the 27th of november, the day i turn 18 and become an adult in the eyes of my family if not the law, i will be coming out, but i don't know how


    i've tried once before, when i was thinking things through and trying to piece things together, and it ended badly as i confided in my step-father only for him to turn around and stab me in the back by telling my mother and his parents, breaking his promis to keep his tongue on the matter. i am not going to make the same mistake and will be telling all of my closest family, but i am worried as my parents have made it clear they are homophobic and transphobic, but my aunt and uncle are both accepting and open as they have shown they are willing to accept their two sons if they are not straight which gives me hope


    as it is i have no idea how to even start and i don't really have any idea how to explain any of it, i've tried to explain the concept of asexuality to my step-father but he laughed at me, i just don't know how to explain to them i'm agender aro ace and actually believe me, let alone that i consider myself transgender which only goes against me being agender


    any sort of advice on how to go about coming out and explaining all of this is very much needed and loved, i have no idea how to even go about doing any of it since the first time happened only because my best friend forced me to do it for my own good

    The post was edited 1 time, last by Werehat ().

    [fancypost bgcolor=; bordercolor=transparent; margin-right: -320px; margin-bottom: 200px;][/fancypost][fancypost bgcolor=; border-top: 5px inset #E00707; border-left: 5px inset #E00707; border-bottom: 5px inset #E00707; border-right: 5px inset #E00707; width: 300px; height: 100px; overflow: auto; height: 250px; width: 400px; margin-right: 100px; margin-top: -320px; font-family: Courier New; color: white;]aaaa coming out is so, so hard. i've only come out to my closest friend in the world and even then it was still kinda hard!! i think u should maybe try to casually ask a few questions on how your family feels about being gay/bi/trans/pan/etc, if you're planning on announcing it to more then ur aunt&uncle and parents. after a bit u could drop the bomb i suppose!


    um m m
    about explaining, these are just my quick definitions that should inform people
    sadly i dont know how to explain your case about being trans and agender? ;_;
    agender: you don't really have a gender [is this right?? i haven't learned much about this one qq]
    transgender: born in the wrong gendered body
    aromantic: you don't feel lovey-dovey towards anyone/you don't feel romantic towards anyone
    asexuality: you don't concider people "hot", you don't ever look at someone and say "hey, i'd tap that". no sexual attraction


    i hope i helped a bit ;~;
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    [fancypost bgcolor=; border: none; width: 450px; padding: 0px; font-size: 10px; line-height: 14px; text-align: justify]it is pretty much those four that i do plan on telling for now, while my family is huge they are the closest to me right now and i would prefer to keep the knowledge limited for now, it's just hard for me to even work up the nerve to tell those four


    agender is a total neutrality on gender, i guess it can be called a step up from non-binary as they are similar but it is a seperation from gender entirely which is the main focus oc my gender, the trans part is more because i plan on going on t and so on in a few years