my world is crumbling

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    i've been holding back from posting this, but i can't take it anymore. my world is crumbling out from beneath my own feet. first, my grandmother died, then my dog got run over the month afterward(this month). and to add to it, and my great grandmother is on the verge of death and my said dog's sister is at my uncle's, since he's the one who originally bought them for my grandmother. annnndddd we're currently moving to a disgusting house that we're now trying to paint and get rid of the bugs.


    but yeah, i got a lot on my plate right now. hopefully this isn't flagged for baiting, cause that would just make my day so much f*cking easier.


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    ĸyara


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    [fancypost bgcolor=#FFADB9; border-top: 3px dotted #F54D70; border-left: 3px dashed #F54D70; border-bottom: 3px dotted #F54D70; border-right: 3px dashed #F54D70; width: 230px; height: 200px; overflow: hidden; border-radius: 0pt 0pt 30pt 30pt;][fancypost bgcolor=; border: none; width: 230px; height: 200px; padding: 0px; padding-right: 32px; overflow: auto;][fancypost bgcolor=; border: none; width: 230px; min-height: 200px; color: #F54D70; font-family: comic sans ms; line-height: 99%; padding: 0px; text-align: justify; font-size: 8pt;]Well, my grandpa died on Easter this year which was really sad for my mom. I didn't really know him so it wasn't much of a loss for me, but I also lost my great grandfather on my dad's side when I was six or seven, so I've already had a few deaths in my life. My mom also flushed my dad's fish down the toilet because he said he would take care of it but who was the one feeding it and cleaning the tank? My mom, no surprise there.


    Anyway enough about me, let's see how I can help you. I wasn't really close to the people that died in my life, but I saw how badly the deaths affected my parents. I think you just need some time to let them go, It took my mom a few days to realize that her father was never coming back. The best thing is just to mentally prepare yourself for the upcoming deaths, I know that's a lot harder than it sounds. Also you should focus on the work with the new house, it'll distract you. I know my mom was always suggesting that we go somewhere after my grandpa's death so that she didn't have the time to let her thoughts linger.


    I hope this helps, but I'm pretty bad on giving advice so I don't know. I'm sorry for your loss and hope that things will get better for you.
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    First off, I don't wanna sound uncaring, but your life sounds sadder than an average Family Guy episode.


    But here's where I get serious: Everything's going to be okay.


    People have rough patches in their lives. I should know from experience. But what I've also learned is that, after every storm, there's a silver lining; When something bad happens, something good will, too. You know what you need? Laughter.



    Watch some comedy, if you get the chance; Animaniacs, The Golden Girls, anything. Or do something you absolutely love. Just get your mind off of the negative.



    Hope I helped.

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    Like all of the above have said, sometimes bad stuff happens and there's not a whole lot you can do. Just try to keep your head up and focus on the positives.


    I know it's hard I lost my cat and my great grandma not too long ago and it's really tough but in some cases letting time do it's work is the only option


    I suggest maybe checking out the Self help master list to help lighten your mood and maybe make you feel a bit better. Hope this helped <3
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    [align=left][font=dotum][color=white]Problems are always harder to look at in the headlights than in the rear-view mirrors. The pain of your family member's deaths will always be with you, but as you get older and go on with your life you'll make new memories in your new house, that you might even grow to like some day. All of these loses will make you stronger. You just have to be brave for the rest of your family until everything eventually passes, because these troubles won't last forever.


    Sorry if that didn't help at all ^w^;;

    [fancypost borderwidth=0pt; font-family: georgia; text-align: justify; width: 350px;]Basically dittoing everyone else. Sometimes there's nothing you can do but let the storm pass, and surround yourself with friends and family to support you during rough times.
    I've lost plenty of family & it's always hurt in the moment and for long timer after, but give it enough time and soon you'll be able to look back and remember all the good things. You'll never stop missing them probably, but you'll learn to live without them and just hold on to the happy memories.
    I'm really sorry to hear about your loss and I hope all goes well for you xx